Today I'm linking up with Becky over at From Mrs. to Mama to Show and Tell some of my wedding details!
1. Are you married? If so when did you get married, and tell us about your special day. If not? How would you describe your dream wedding?
Yes! Happily! Our marriage(s) have a funny story surrounding them. Ashish and I got engaged in August of 2008 and planned to get married in September 2009. That November his parents planned a great Indian ceremony for us with a guest list of 150+ people. Fast forward to February 2009...we were sitting in a Hibachi restaurant and I leaned over and said " you wanna go get married?" Ashish's eyes got bright and he said "let's do it." My dad met us at the JOP and witnessed us get legally married. Now, fast forward to September 4th, we had my dream wedding, white dress and all! We officially celebrate the September anniversary but we will do something special on the other two anniversary dates!
2. Show us some wedding pictures. Either yours or of some that you love.
3. How about the engagement? Tell us your story. If not engaged, what's your dream proposal?
Our engagement story is kinda long so I'll just give you the important details. We went on a weekend getaway to Chattanooga to see Rock City and Ruby Falls. The whole time we were at Rock City Ashish was acting weird. I couldn't put my finger on it but something was different. When we drove up to Ruby Falls he was fidgeting with something in his pocket. I didn't pay too much attention to it and just brushed it off. At the entrance of Ruby Falls is a stone structure for people to take pictures. Ashish wanted to stop and get someone to take a picture of us (which he NEVER suggests) so I went looking for someone to take the picture. When I turned back around he was down on one knee.
The proposal was very sweet and well planned. When I called t tell my dad that we were engagement he acted as if he had no clue.
Me: Hey Dad, guess what?
Me: I got engaged!!! Ashish proposed!!!
Dad: Really?!? With a ring and everything?!?
Me: Yes, with a ring and everything!
Dad:<laughing> I already knew, Ashish asked for my blessing last weekend when I was at the house helping install the ceiling fans!
My parents drove from Atlanta to Chattanooga that day to help us celebrate our engagement!
4. Show us your wedding rings or an engagement photo! If not engaged/married ... show us your "dream" ring.
I'm not at home so I can't share a pic of my wedding rings on my wedding day, but I do have a picture of my rings!
5. Tell us why you think marriage doesn't work out for so many? What can we do to make things last?
Oh goodness, I may be the wrong person to ask. I know what makes MY marriage work and my marriage only.
I think having GOD as the center of your marriage is probably the most important key to a successful marriage. This has been especially helpful in our marriage. We joined a small group at church and have loved it. We have our own little cheerleaders that are rooting for our marriage and the success of our marriage.
Communication is so important. I can't tell you how many people are so eager to throw in the towel because "he doesn't listen," or "he won't change." If you go into marriage thinking that the other person will change than you are fighting a losing battle. Accept your husband/wife for who they are. Something about who they are is what attracted you to them in the first place.
Model your marriage after a marriage that you admire. Ashish and I have fantastic examples, Ashish's parents have been married for 54 years and my parents have been married for 39 yrs. Surround yourself with like minded people. That doesn't mean that you have to drop your single friends. Make new married friends, they will do wonders for your marriage.
Marriage isn't easy, you're going to get pissed off, suck it up and deal with it. It wasn't designed to be easy. When it gets hard, pray together, communicate, and surround yourself with people that are going to lift your marriage up instead of assist in tearing it down.
Every marriage is different, you have to do what's best for your marriage, even if it means stepping outside of your boundaries!